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58 - Lisa's Story |
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I too, am adopted, as is my husband.
We are in the process of growing our family through adoption
ourselves. We have been matched with a birthmother who is due
in June.
All that aside, I reunited with my birthmother as well. In
Michigan, where I was born and still live, they actually have
a very good compromise policy.
I contacted the court. They sent me their policy, which in
a nutshell, is if an adoptee or a birthparent or sibling requests,
they will release all non idenifitying information they have
on file. They will attempt to contact the birthparent or adoptee
and ASK if they wish to be contacted by the person seeking
them.
There was a fee for this, I believe about $250, five years
ago.
My birthmother was located, with some searching. We talked
on the phone a few times (she lived in Alabama) and agreed
to meet. I can't say I felt an overwhelming bond with her.
I did, however, have the opportunity to meet my biological
half sister, with whom I have a very close warm relationship.
My sis has also told me many details surrounding my birth that
my biological mother was not forthcoming with. (In other words,
she flat out lied about.)
So, I am glad I had the opportunity. But I also think the legal
approach to the whole situation was the right sort of compromise.
Just my two cents. |
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